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Authenticity,  Identity,  Soul Care

The Voices, Unfriending the Inner Critic


I recently came across a question that rocked me to my core. It simply asked “If you had a friend who spoke to you the same way you speak to yourself in your head, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?”

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We all have that voice in our heads speaking to us all the time. It’s the core of what we are really thinking. What we believe. How we see ourselves. How we believe others see us.

Social media was the virtual landmine I would tend to fall into. Things would go downhill pretty quickly as I would go on a scroll-fest and then be sucked into hearing the voice questioning my abilities and comparing myself to others. Oh, how I hate to admit that but it is the truth. I would question everything from my parenting skills, being a wife and homemaker, if I was cut out to really be a successful business owner, or if I was a good friend to others.

I even questioned if I was “Christian” enough if I wasn’t pouring my entire life out for the sake of the gospel. I would hear that I needed to be “fruitful” in all of my works. Whatever that even means.

It came down to striving and trying to prove something to others and myself that I am enough.


I was so desperate to believe this that I even bought the t-shirt. See Exhibit A below…

You Are Enough Shirt

And yet, I have this nagging voice that would keep rearing its ugly head telling me that no matter what I do or what I did, it was never enough. Telling me that I would NEVER be enough. And even if I fall short on a daily basis, I allowed this voice to become a part of who I was. For years, this voice has tried to dictate who I am, my identity.

Have you ever heard the subtle inner whispers that make you question who you are? If so, how in the world do we overcome the negative chatter in our minds?


There is a song that comes on the radio that speaks so loudly to my soul as it relates to this nagging voice in my head. A song by Casting Crowns called “Voice of Truth”.

Oh what I would do to have
The kind of faith it takes 
To climb out of this boat I’m in
onto the crashing waves

To step out of my comfort zone
Into the realm of the unknown where Jesus is
And He’s holding out His hand

But the waves are calling out my name 
And they laugh at me
Reminding me of all the times 
I’ve tried before and failed
The waves they keep on telling me
Time and time again, “Boy, you’ll never win!”
“You’ll never win!”

I am so glad that the song does not end there. It continues by saying…

But the Voice of Truth tells me a different story
The Voice of Truth says, “Do not be afraid!”
And the Voice of Truth says, “This is for My glory”
Out of all the voices calling out to me
I will choose to listen and believe the Voice of Truth

It’s choosing to disregard all the voices from society and in our own heads and pivoting to listen and believe the Voice of Truth. Romans 12:2 tells us, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind…”

The voices that I hear that replay in my mind,  I have a choice to believe them or not. The problem comes into play when I don’t realize that what I believe is actually a lie a not truth at all. My mind must be renewed continually and saturated with the truth of God’s word in order to detect and know what is truth.


So how in the world do we get past and overcome the negative chatter in our minds?

Romans 12:2 “Do not fashion yourselves according to the present form of this world, but according to its coming transformation, by renewing your mind.”

Sometimes it takes getting quiet. And still. Sometimes you have to get through the voices to get to the voice of truth. The more I practice being still and recognizing what is really there in light of truth, I can decipher when I am believing a lie.

I’m finding myself on this journey to change the narrative of what voice plays in my head. I’m inviting you to join me. It’s time to end the friendship with the voices in our heads that tear us down and tries to rob us of our true identities. It’s time to walk in sweet communion with the One who calls us friend (John 15:15). As we quiet ourselves before Abba Father and rest in the truth of His word, let it set us free from any voice that is NOT the Voice of Truth.